Happy To Be Alone

Am I allowed to be comfortable in my own skin, or must I be part of a “couple” in order to be happy and accepted. The soap operas I watch portrays the theory that a man can’t be alone. If he has just broken up with someone, he will find someone else soon after. His “single” status is always temporary, lasting a few months, if not a few weeks.

I know that relationships and marriage are a natural course of life. But are we too scared to live in our own skins that we are in a constant rush to find the next “perfect” relationship? Yaab dheh.

What if I am not ready to have someone enter my life. What if the lifestyle I have created for myself at present does not have room for someone else to enter it with me. Maybe further down the line I could create room, but only when I am ready.

But so many of us are compelled to not be alone, like it is something terrible. Perhaps it is a societal pressure, but I believe deep down some people are just too afraid to be alone. They are not comfortable in their own skin. They need someone else just for the sake of not being alone. But even when they are in a relationship, that “alone” feeling is still there.

Clearly I don’t believe in that. I believe that you can be on your own and be happy. You can fulfill yourself while being alone. Sometimes we don’t meet the love of our life yet because we are not ready for them, it’s some divine plan. Just like Gold is not ready until it is- we are not ready until we are. calaf baa jira waryaada

It’s also popular to see two people who are single and want to set them up together. What if they just aren’t ready? If they have requested to be set up then that’s another story. But why is it so strange to be single and happy and not in a rush for a new relationship?

If it’s because people want us to be happy, then I’m saying I can be happy without a relationship, for now. Then there will come a stage in my life when I want to take the next step, to share my happiness with someone else.

Relationships are not all good. Some relationships can leave people with a hole in their heart from the pain they have suffered. So why rush into something for the sake of not being single when it can have a devasating effect on one’s life?

I believe in not rushing. I believe that when a flower is ready to bloom, it will. Everything happens in its own time; look around at nature and the way God created it to see that message screaming out at us every day and every night. The sun rises when it is ready, when it is its time. So will we. cagaha aan meel dhigno dee oon nasano

We are happy in our single lives. I don’t need someone else to take me out of my supposed single misery. My life hasn’t started or stopped just because I haven’t yet met the woman of my life. naag aan raadinayo maba jiraane ee hee dheh na dhaaaaaaaaaf

Just because I am single, doesn’t mean I’m constantly on the look out for a woman. It doesn’t mean marriage is on my mind twenty-four seven. It doesn’t mean that if there is a good gabar who is single, then I have to be thrown into her arms immediately. It will happen when I’m ready. mase dhowa ehehehe

And I am comfortable in my own skin. When I meet “her”, I know I’ll be comfortable in our skin. It’s just a matter of when I’m ready. When I’ve met the right person. When I’m marrying for the right intentions and not just for the sake of having an accessory called a “wife” on my arm to show off that I am not alone. walaahi ha kaayabin taas

Those who have rushed are regretting it. They didn’t take the time to get to know themselves, to love themselves, to know who they really are and what their purpose in life is. They had believed their only purpose was to grow up and find someone to marry. Then reality hit them. It’s later in life when they feel it is important to know who they are, to fulfil their dreams. They wished they could have done so when they were single, instead of rushing after an idea.

The idea that you can’t be alone, you need your lady charming or you’ll be destined to an eternal coma like Sleeping Beauty. Until princess charming comes along and takes you out of your paralysis. Although we are in the 21st century, so many modern societies still believe in this idea. aniga kuma jiro kuwaasi walaahi markhaati ka ahaada nooh

And some people believe you truly become an adult when you are married. I think you become an adult when you learn how to live with yourself, happilly, content, knowing that you’re not really alone and many other factors that contribute to you being an adult. Just look around you. You have God, you have your family, you have your friends. Somali oo dhan.

You have yourself. Love yourself and you won’t be in a constant rush to find something to fill the void you feel. Love yourself and you will not feel so alone. walaahi been ma ahan ee adiga is jecloow, inta aad dad islaameed raadinaysid

Why, you’ll be in the company of God. And the second most precious thing: you’ll be in the company of “you”. adiage bes waryaa ee naga daa guur tabar uma haynee Anigaaba nafteyda khaati bilaahi ka joogee. Ciddii guur soo hadal qaadaa walaaylaal,albaaka tusa nooh oo dhaha war na dhaaaaaaaaaaaaf