She Wants Everything Nice!

Well, I'm gonna tell you a real story about a Somali sister who doesn't want to marry because she always says "I want my man to be so and so". She wants him to have everything nice. Waawareey, war toloow ninkaas xagee laga helaa moojiiiii. I translated it into English so walaayaal keep reading and put your hands on your cheeks and it is up to you whether love her or hate her. I don't give a damn, hahahaha. islaan khatar ah dheh. Baraavoow

Well, I'm gonna tell you a real story about a Somali sister who don't want to marry because she always says "I want my man to be so and so". She wants him to have everything nice. Waawareey, war toloow ninkaas xagee laga helaa moojiiiii. I translated it into English so walaayaal keep reading and put your hands on your cheeks and it is up to you whether love her or hate her. I don't give a damn, hahahaha. islaan khatar ah dheh. Baraavoow

I do not want a man who is going to oppress me. [ ha kayaabin] I do not want a man who wants to show me off either. I do not want a man who is going to treat me like his property, or like a child.[ allahu akbar] I do not want a man to tell me what to do and what not to do.[ maxaa dhacay naayaa] I do not want a man to tell me that everything is haram and that I must stay at home and cook for him.[maxaa dhacau ma xaaraan baa cunee].

I do not want a man who hates it when I start talking about religious issues because he doesn’t like anything religious.[ sheekh ma ihi dee] I do not like a man who wants to be secular and liberal. I do not want a man to tell me that I have to work and give him my earnings. I do not want a man to force me to do anything I do not want to do. [ ma miskiin baa imoodey markaan ku tuugaayo]

I do not want a man to patronise me. I do not want a man to have friends who are girls because I am jealous [ acuudu bilaahi masyr badanaa islaantu ]. It’s not that I don’t trust him, I just don’t trust them. Neither do I trust the shaytan. I do not want a man who is going to spend hours on the phone with a colleague who is a female because I believe there should be boundaries [ free speech weeye dee ]. I do not want a man who is going to invite his friends over whenever he wants and I have to cook for them and end up cleaning for them too [ soo naagta guriga matihid dee ]. I do not want a man who is going to neglect me and work all the time. Why get married in the first place? [ inaan taajir noqono dee

I do not want a man who fights and argues. I do not want a man who is impatient. I do not want a man who will ignore me. I do not want a man who will blame me for everything. I do not want a man who will treat me like his enemy. I do not want a man who disrespects women. I do not want a man who is stingy. I do not want a man who wants to use me.

I do not want a man who doesn’t really love me [ waan ku jeclahey walaahi ]. I do not want a man who is not going to be romantic [ haa waa aqaanaa shukaansi dee ]. I do not want a man who is not going to love or care for me. I do not want a man who thinks marriage is just about having an accessory as a wife on his hands to show off to people. I do not want a man who thinks that marriage is like that. Marriage is about two people who adore and love each other and who want to live together successfully as a team, helping each other succeed in whatever they want to do [ mar horaan kuushegay waan kujeclahey xabiibi ].

It’s about a partnership. I do not want a man who thinks he’s the one who is going to rule over me. Nor do I want a man who thinks he can control me. I do not want a man who is angry quickly. I do not want a man who is unforgiving. I do not want a man who is not merciful. I do not want a man who hurts people easily. I do not want a man who is too religious. I do not want a man who is not religious at all. I do not want a man who thinks drinking alcohol is okay and is not haram [ alahey ka allah waxaas sameyn maayo waa i taqaanaa dee ].

I do not want a man who smokes. I do not want a man who is selfish and stubborn. I do not want a man who lies. I do not want a man who is not proud of where he is from originally. I do not want a man who does not know how to lower his gaze when there are other women in the room [ yaa oo ma indhoole ayaan ahay ]. I do not want a man who can easily joke with the opposite sex in front of me [ uuh].

I do not want a man who doesn’t know his boundaries with the opposite sex. I do not want a man who thinks he’s going to throw all the house-work on me simply because I am a woman. I do not want a man who thinks he can go out with his friends every night and ignore me. I do not want a man who is emotionally cold. I do not want a man who is going to embarrass me in front of his friends or relatives with a word or two. waawareey

I do not want a man who does not show me any affection, only when he is in the mood. I do not want a man who is not going to show me how much he loves me. I do not want a man who is going to treat me like a slave. I do not want a man who is going to treat me like a second-class citizen. Nor do I want a man who is going to treat me like a child. I think I just said that, but I’ve said it again. I don’t want a man who will take advantage of me.[ hey is qabooji islaanta cuqdada aa kaa buuxdee bisnka ]

I do want a man who is loving. I do want a man who respects me and holds me in high esteem, who trusts my judgement and intellect. Who admires me. I do want a man who is romantic. He doesn’t have to copy what the movies show. He can make up his own romantic gestures, as long as it is coming from him I don’t mind. I do want a man who is understanding and broad minded. I do want a man who will not judge me harshly. Nor force me to make choices that I do not want to take. I do want a man who likes children and who wants to be successful for our sake. [ haa waa sameynaa walaahi see waaye xariif aan ahee ]

I do want a man who is a good listener and will talk to me and listen to me. I do want a man who can’t live without me because I matter to him, because I complete him. I do want a man who values me. I do want a man who is a man, a real man. A man who is courageous, a man who is honest, a man who loves the Prophet and wants to follow his manners and peaceful, kind way. He doesn’t have to grow a tree of a beard, nor does he have to pray 100 times a day. I do want a simple man who loves Allah and has good manners, who does what he can, who is not extreme, nor a hypocrite. a real man aaaaaaaaaaaaaa?

I do want a man who is kind to animals. Who likes cats like me. I want a man who is an intellectual, who likes to analyse things like I do. I do want a man who cares for poor people, who likes to give without being stingy. I do want a man who cares about social issues and wants to make a change, however small. I do want a man who knows that one day he will die and meet his Lord, so he wants to be a good human so that he can take me and our children to Jannah. naa maxaad taqaanaa baadiyaa lagaa keeney shalayee

I do want a man who actually takes my opinion on matters and listens to my advice. I want a man who lets me live how I want, whether I want to work or not, whether I want to spend my money on stuff or not. I want a man who is funny, who likes to make me laugh so he can feel good. I want a man who is not afraid to let down his guard and run in my arms because he has had a bad day. I want a man who sees me as his best friend, the first person he’ll come to when he has a problem, or when he has good news. I do want a man who will love every moment he spends with me, who thanks God that he is married to me.

I do want a man who won’t burden me with in-law problems, who will stand up gently and diplomatically to relatives who try to hurt me. I do want a man who is kind and gentle, who is giving and who trusts me completely. I do want a man who loves people from all walks of life and is not snobby to the less fortunate. I do want a man who takes me out on dates even after we are married, so it feels like we are still courting. Who’ll take me to cinemas, or just out to eat, holding hands and enjoying our time together, saying whatever comes in our minds and loving it.

I do want a man who does not have personality complexes, who is just a simple guy with good dreams and ambitions, who is spontaneous when he wants to be, who wants to make me happy. I do want a man who is good-looking to me, who is my type, who fills me with chemistry and electricity. I want a man who thinks it’s wonderful that I want to start our honeymoon with an Umrah first so that God can bless our marriage. Who thinks that praying two prayers for God on our first night together is a sweet idea so that we are spiritually happy and blessed. There is so much to him that I want to list, but it will take an eternity.



I think my kind of man is nothing extraordinarly special.

He is just human.

A good human.

The way humans are meant to be.

alahey ka alaah waxas oo dhan ma kuu sameyn karo naayaa ee isqabooji oo cagaha meel dhig weli aakhiri lama aadine ehehehe